Even today, a lot of women choose the path of becoming stay-at-home moms, although most of those women have a high degree of education. Sometimes it is a choice because they want to be at home with their children, other times it is for financial reasons as a lot of families do not have the means to hire someone to take care of the children or pay high daycare fees, and other times it is also because of tradition and social norms.
As a woman, this family-career dilemma is something that I inevitably think about, even if I am nowhere near facing those types of decisions (I do sometimes over-think). Personally, I have come to realize that I never want to stop working. I have seen my mom make a lot of sacrifices for my brother and I, and as much as I respect and I am grateful for all of those choices she made, I never want to make those sacrifices myself.
To be happy, I believe all of us need to feel accomplished. We need to do something with our life that makes us proud and I find that it has to go through a career or a business endeavor. Although I am positive children bring a lot of happiness and fulfillment, once they leave the home to start their own lives, the stay-at-home parent might not have a lot left and might feel unaccomplished. I have seen it and I have read about it, and I definitely do not want this for myself.
Today, especially in Canada, we finally live in a society where so many laws are in place to make it possible for the mother to have both a successful career and a family life. Other generations before us did not have that chance, and I think it would be a shame to not take advantage of this fully. Also, if I ever have a daughter, I want to show her that it is possible to “have it all”. I believe it is very heatlhy for a girl to grow up in that kind of environment where a mother is both successful at work and in the home. Of course, I am sure aiming for both also has its own sacrifices, but I am a lot more comfortable with those.
The picture I chose for this post is one of Jessica Alba, co-founder of The Honest Company, as well as being a mother of two. Women like her inspire me to aim for self-fulfillment in all aspects of my life. I am sure her life has its own set of ups and downs, but I am also sure she feels fulfilled with all of what she has accomplished and that is an incredible feeling that nothing else can replace. After all, who doesn’t want to feel powerful, challenged, smart and important?
I am writing this post as I’d love to hear your comments about this subject. It’s something I care a lot about since those kinds of decisions have such a high impact in our society and the way we perceive gender roles. I do think it’s changing and more and more women will stay in the workforce even if they decide to have children. Although I respect both decisions, I am a strong believer that when both parents have a good career, they are both happier at home, which also impacts the children (and it’s also a fact, I read it in Lean In which is my bible). Besides, I’m already excited to get a fashionable corporate wardrobe! 😉
Thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your week! xx